I like a girl and she likes me I can do small talk with her but I don't know how to engage into the relationship. I'm working on overcoming my shyness.
I've decided to ask her out. Now I'm thinking what would b appropriate setting, and what she would like to do on a first date / meeting?
If you want to effectively communicate with girls and people in general the best method is to utilize active listening skills.
You are probably thinking that listening is easy but it is harder than you think. How many times have you really listened to someone instead of just absorbing a few bits and pieces here and there and then formulating your own response before they had time to finish?
To actively listen to someone requires good concentration and patience on your part. If you can combine this along with enthusiasm about getting to know the girl then it will go a long way in getting into her good books.
The only way for you to really overcome your shyness / initial nervousness with girls is for you to practice communicating with as many girls that you can. (Young or old) Try to practice your active listening skills and communication skills whenever and wherever the opportunity presents itself e.g. at school, at the shops, mall etc.
Bottom line: As for figuring out if they want to talk to you more, they'll appear interested, maintain their half of the conversation, their body will be positioned towards you, and body language will be positive.
On the other hand, if they don't want to continue the conversation, they'll do the opposite; slouched over, disinterested look on their face, going "uh-huh" "whatever" "yes/no", and just generally negative body language.
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