I am very attracted to a woman who I've casually introduced. I want to ask her out at but I'm always to shy. What makes me nervous is I am not sure if she has a boyfriend or not.
I always say I will ask her out but I never do and there's never a decent time to ask her because she's always with her friends. Any advice?
Since you met her in work environment, I'm certain that it wouldn't be too difficult for you to find out whether she is spoken for or not. Do you know where she and her group of friends sit at lunchtime? Since you like her you have to make yourself visible to her radar. Try to at least walk past her and smile once a day if you can. Maybe even say hello!
If she does have a boyfriend then someone somewhere knows who he is. Do you or your friends know any girls who could find this information out on your behalf?
The reason why I emphasize on gathering this information beforehand is because it will save you a lot of effort and heartache down the track. If you know that she has a boyfriend then you can decide whether to move on or ask her at a later date if/when she becomes available.
If you find out that she is single then there is a number of things that you can do to communicate your feelings towards her.
Bottom line: Firstly you can taker her aside and tell her face to face your intentions. I admit that would require a fair amount of courage on your behalf. You could write her a note (requesting a meeting) and get someone to pass it along to her or you can try to become friends with one of her friends and hope that they introduce you to her?
Then when you get an opportunity and she is by herself go and have the courage to introduce yourself. Start with small chat and progress a little bit each time that you see her. Hopefully she is nice and will be responsive otherwise you will be better of choosing another girl. To learn more about how to tell if a woman is interested , refer to e-books in the series “ Relationships: Puzzles and Answers ” :
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