I've got attracted to a girl at work. I've grabbed the opportunity and asked her out. She's been really friendly to me, and tried to talk, ask many things. Before we head back to the office, I just asked, "Lunch tomorrow sounds cool?" She said "sure", blushed. And she left quickly.
She was really friendly. Joked around with me, but always be negative whenever I "asked" her out. It's not even asking out, just coffee, lunch. So how do I proceed on with this woman?
The signs do not look good when a girl makes various excuses not to meet you outside of the office circle. It might have been a bit premature of you to have asked her on your first day.
Mostly because it would make it appear that you were only interested in asking her out instead of wanting to study. Not that there is anything wrong with that but since the timing was off it would make you appear disingenuous.
You probably should have waited until you developed a bit of a rapport with her before asking her out. If she was a stranger that you would never see again then you definitely have to be more direct however since she did say yes to having casual time off spent with you.
So you had more time to get to know her and try to make a connection with her. If you are looking for a friend then I think that she may be persuaded to go out with you however if you are looking for a relationship then I think that you would be best of looking elsewhere.
Bottom line: If I were you, I'd rather be around friends who want to have coffee or lunch. Widen your circle of friends, and be around others who are more receptive. I'd leave this girl alone. Be polite, but keep moving when you see her.
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