I got attracted to a female boss. Each time I talk to her she clams up. She's a couple of years younger then me and almost seems intimidated by me as if she doesn't know how to act around me and doesn't now what to say.
Sometimes I think she's shy and other times I think she probably hates me. I look confident but I'm actually not even though I'm a very nice-looking man. How am I am going to find out what her actual thoughts are about me?
Flirting makes us feel good, and sometimes, we take that behavior further than it belongs with our own imaginations. Let your imagination run wild. You're not hurting anyone by doing that.
But let it stay in your head and don't ever tell. That "is she into me" question again.... If ever there is a time where anyone has to ask "is she into me"? Then I believe the answer is no. Because a woman who is "into you" will let you know it, not just by flirting that goes nowhere, but also by asking you out.
Since she's your boss, she's smart enough to know that is not a good thing. Give her credit for that. Don't hope for a future with her. Take seriously a woman who gives you eye contact, is single, and then asks you out... off the job.
Keep your dignity, and you'll keep your job. That doesn't mean your boss will stop being a "hottie", it means you are also smart enough to realize temptations shouldn't always be acted upon. Don't take "heavy eye contact" too seriously.
Bottom line: Be always honest when responding to people, whether or not you're actually interested in them. I believe in honesty because I feel strongly that people appreciate that, and also, that is just who I am. Yes, your obstacle is this crush you have is on your boss.
Asking her can only do finding out the truth, and I certainly would not ask her. There is no classy way to do that. It would only be awkward, and afterward almost certainly regretted; especially if you find that his feelings are not mutual. For more tips about flirting with colleague, refer to e-books in the series “ Relationships: Puzzles and Answers ” :
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