I'm seeing a girl at the moment, it's a sexual relationship with no strings attached. Any way I'm always giving in to the chase to easy and I always put complements her way. However, I never get them back.
She doesn't flirt much with me. Partly because she is shy, when I kiss her its like she is frozen like she doesn't get into it. I know she likes me but I need some spice in the relationship if it's to last. I need to improve this and get her interested in me. Or bring back the chase before u loose her.
Elementary Principle: You are going to have to talk to her. Ask her what's going on in her mind. Get to know her a little better, if you already haven't.
Sounds to me she's just not feeling it, and if she's not feeling it, you can't force her to feel something.
It sounds a bit fishy to me that she can have this kind of relationship with you, yet clam up when you kiss her. It seems to me that shyness is not the reason; after all, she's not too shy to go further than a kiss.
It is possible maybe she's feeling rushed, in which case, back off a little and don't push her. Give her time.
Bottom line: I'd give it whatever amount of time you feel is reasonable for improvement. I feel it can be very damaging to a person's self-esteem to stay in a relationship with this type of problem for any extended period.
If you see no improvement after a reasonable time, I'd put my energy into moving on, because you can't make anyone interested in you. All you can do is try to talk to her and let her know how you feel, without being confrontational about it. For more tips about talking to a woman and letting her know how you feel, refer to e-books in the series “ Relationships: Puzzles and Answers ” :
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