I have been seeing a woman now for a few months. We started out relationship out more like a friends rather then lovers. Yet I fell in love with her, but as she was just over the failed relationship, she refused to commit again.
A couple months later, we were a point where I felt that I was getting signals that indicated romantic interest on her behalf. Applying my male logic to the situation made things worse, leaving me to believe that she just couldn't be in a relationship that started as friendship.
You obviously care for her a great deal, and really want a relationship with her to work - despite all of these things that you've been tuned down for romance.
I know how hard it can be to relinquish hopes of romance - but she isn't ready. Not now, and maybe not ever. You need to be willing to listen to her - truly listen - and then stick by it.
You don't want to start the relationship off with sexual involvement. But more than that, you have to take stock and realize that only she decides she's ready for a relationship will there be a worry of that. She said she didn't want a relationship - don't go trying to force her into one.
The main reason that you are feeling guilty for failed relationship is the fact that you haven't taken the time to face your emotions before.
Bottom line: It sounds like she needs space, and time to heal. Intellectually you've recognized the spot you're in - but emotionally, you have to let go. The passionate aspect of love, which can be so enticing, is something, which could develop out of a close friendship.
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