I was thinking to ask a woman out who I know as a work colleague. It's not so easy to see her and talk to her; she usually works in a different office. When she is in my office, we'll only see each other if we happen to bump into each other in the hallway.
So, if I want to see her more often, I'd have to call her or email her. But, she did reject my first lunch date email, so I'm a bit weary of trying that again. Then there's asking her to do something in a group, but I don't do well in big groups. Strangely, I'd actually probably do better on a one on one date with her. But maybe she's not ready for that.
First you need to redeem your self-confidence. Stop thinking she is a HOT chick you are trying to get and start to think of her as some chick you are friends with. Women do love the chase.
You definitely need to start hanging out and doing stuff with her so that you can be less nervous! You are not saying you want to hide but you are definitely not in her face. You need to develop some kind of rapport so that you can chill...
I really think you should stop analyzing her actions / reactions, and yourself. Take a deep breath, take one step backwards and just live your life like she wasn't your ideal girl.
FIND out about her - what she likes to do after work? Work out? Food? Works late? If she works late and she is on your messenger ask her if she is still at work and whether she wants to get some food to eat there or bring it back.
Bottom line: Don't ignore a woman; just concentrate your efforts on something else for some time. Don't go out of your way to make contact just be polite, say hello when you see her but nothing more.
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