I was attracted to a woman secretly but my friend was a quick one and started to date her. It seems we shared mutual attraction for each other. On an occasion we met at a party and she told me she still loves me.
She kissed me and told me she loved me. Now I am torn by different emotions, should I try to win her over and ruin my friendship or should I eave our relationship as it was?
Let's see your options. You could leave her alone.
For several reasons:
1) Your friend made a move on her first;
2) It has been a year they've been together, that is a bit serious;
3) He is your best friend. Nothing good can come of this.
She is bad news for open flirting right in front of her boyfriend, your best friend. She encouraged you to hug her, kiss her and flirted in a physical way with you and she has a boyfriend.
If I were you, I would stay away from her and your best friend. You cannot be a best friend to someone if you secretly desire their companion.
Bottom line: You eventually envy them and basically are waiting for the right moment for them to break up. When that happens, you will make your move. Where will your friendship be with your best buddy after that?
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